Joe Kort

During the recent monkeypox outbreak, there were reports that the disease was affecting more men who have sex with men (MSM). This brought to light for many people that it isn’t only gay men who have sex with men, something psychotherapist and sexologist Dr Joe Kort has been studying for many years. While he works with a wide range of issues, as his popular podcast Smart Sex Smart Love and TikTok posts demonstrate, Kort has found he sees a steady stream of MSM which shows no sign of letting up.

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with LALALALETME EXPLAIN

I bet there’s no one reading this who thinks they have all the answers to how to make dating work or what the common pitfalls can be. It’s no wonder, then, that an anonymous blogger and podcaster who does try to do just that has had a rip roaring social media success providing relationships advice based on her own knowledge and experience. Her Sunday Times best seller, Block, Delete, Move On has won hundreds of thousands of followers for LaLaLaLetMeExplain, whom we were very pleased to meet on The Real Sex Education podcast recently.

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Therapist Silva Neves

Coming out as LGBTQ+ is often described as a journey rather than a single event. It’s not just a one-off incident that’s then done and dusted, but a lifelong series of conversations which may take many different forms, from joyful to traumatic depending on the context and who you’re coming out to. Someone may have been through a great deal of soul searching before they confide in another person, and may see it as much more than mere information giving. The way the news is expected to be received will obviously affect how willing someone is to give it, and it can be a significant personal milestone when someone’s ready. Some people find therapy helpful to explore when and how to come out, and it’s important they don’t feel coerced into doing so by a partner or even a well-meaning but ill-informed health professional or therapist.

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In common with most of our guests on The Real Sex Education podcast, comedian and actor Jack Barry didn’t find his sex education all that helpful.  Interestingly, he found it wasn’t always age appropriate, leaving him a bit baffled at times. It also didn’t respond to the student’s concerns, which were much more related to relationships than reproduction. Read the rest of this entry »

You can’t help noticing that there are a lot of sexual services available in Japan and that sex is a topic of, shall we say, interest; even some TV game shows have a sexual theme. Yet people don’t talk openly about sex. Indeed, there’s a sense that it doesn’t exist in real life. It’s just there in the background getting on with it. Interestingly, though LGBTQ+ relationships are fairly invisible, they’ve been extensively researched, whereas straight relationships have received much less interest despite a falling birth rate caused by more people choosing not to marry or have children – or even to have sex, at least with a live-in partner.

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Sophie Gallagher

Five years ago, during an underground train journey, journalist Sophie Gallagher suddenly because aware that anyone can find themselves intruded upon, disturbed and even traumatised out of the blue by someone they don’t know. Gallagher had been cyberflashed. Someone she didn’t know had sent her 120 pictures of their genitals. Though she rejected the images, she had already seen a preview of them, and whoever had sent them via airdrop must have been only feet away from her, watching her reaction.

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Co-creator of the sex and relationships YouTube channel Come Curious and accompanying podcast F**ks Given, and presenter of the podcast How To Heal A Heartbreak, which was inspired by her own experience of a difficult break up, our Real Sex Education guest Florence Bark is on a mission to share and understand responses to relationship distress. Now morphed into Love High, the podcast continues to resonate with anyone trying to make sense of their relationships as well as manage their feelings after a split.

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Originally, a cuckold, or cuck, was a man derided because his wife had sex with other men. More recently, cuckolding has referred to a consensual practice whereby a partner has sex with someone else, often watched, or participated in, by the cuckold. We decided to feature cuckolding on The Real Sex Education podcast because it’s being mentioned much more, both in therapy and in the media, suggesting it’s becoming more common and/or more openly discussed.

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Justin Hancock

Youth worker and sex education trainer, Justin Hancock created the Bish website to help parents, teachers and young people learn about sex and deliver sex education more creatively and usefully. Sex education remains a low status subject, using poor quality resources, he told us when he joined us on The Real Sex Education podcast. ‘Bad sex education is worse than no sex education,’ he said.

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Jackie Adedeji

Just imagine if puberty arrived and suddenly everyone started treating you like an adult. That’s what happened to writer and presenter Jackie Adedeji. At 11 years old Jackie was already wearing an FF cup bra, and people began assuming she was older and more worldly wise than an 11 year old should ever be. Not only was she sexualised but also ridiculed and problematized. She hadn’t chosen what had happened to her body, but practically overnight she became an object of lust, hilarity and pity (‘Don’t they give you a bad back?’). How is an 11 year old supposed to cope with that?

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